I’m rubber, you’re glue. Whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you!
Raise your hand if you remember chanting that as a kid. Thought so! OK, so there’s some truth to the first part—you can be rubber. You just have to decide to be.
Let us explain.
When something bad happens—you slept through your alarm; someone cuts you off in traffic; your spouse breaks your trust—you react. And whether that means you tailspin into a bad day, you feel a burst of anger and rage, or you sink into sadness and despair—you have control over that reaction.
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We’re sure you’ve heard or have been told to just let it go. Which sounds like it’s on you to take responsibility for someone’s bad behavior. But it’s not. It’s 100% all about you.
You don’t want to feel icky, right? Do you like when you feel so angry you could lose it? Does it feel good when you replay some hurtful event over and over in your head?
So, just stop.
Let yourself go. Give yourself permission to move past whatever it was that hurt you or made you feel bad. It doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. It doesn’t mean you weren’t “right” to feel how you did. It doesn’t mean your feelings don’t matter.
It means you don’t want to spend another precious moment of your time giving life to something negative.
Take five minutes to get mad. Yell. Write an email (that you don’t send). Cry. Complain. But then get off of it before anyone even knew you were on it.
Once you start doing this, you’ll find the day’s little transgressions won’t even bother you anymore. You’ll find that almost nothing can derail your day. Because no one has the power to do that to you.
Put this to practice starting today. Is there something that’s bothering you? Get it all out (try writing it all down, but don’t send it anywhere); then actively decide to move on because you don’t want to feel awful any longer. Check back in with yourself in a couple days. Do you feel better?