If you kick-started a resolution for 2019, it’s time to check in with yourself. No matter what your resolution was—work out more, kick a smoking habit, eat healthier, spend more time with family, get organized, you name it—it’s easy to have a lot of motivation at first but then lose steam as time goes on. If you really want to make your resolution work, set aside some time each month to take stock of what you’ve accomplished and where you might need some nudging. Here are some tips to get you there:
Make Sure it’s the Right Fit
Are you struggling big time with your resolution? Did you make a few days and leap off the wagon? Maybe this resolution isn’t for you right now. Reevaluate why you chose this goal: Is this really what matters to you in this moment or are you just choosing “lose weight” because you always do?
Think long and hard about what’s important to you, and think outside the box! A resolution doesn’t have to be something involving eating better or working out—it could be committing to reading one book a month, a weekly dinner date with your partner or laughing more. Make it about whatever matters to you.
Baby Steps for Success
Take a second look and see if you bit off more than you can chew. For example, if you really wanted to start working out and your resolution was to hit the gym four times a week for hour-long sessions—you probably made too big of a jump to start. Instead, commit to walking 5 miles a week for the first month or 20-minute gym sessions three days a week.
It’s much easier to make smaller, easy-to-swallow adjustments at first and then move onto bigger goals. You’ll feel good as you meet your own expectations, making it easier for you to up the ante as you go.
Cut Yourself Some Slack
Sometimes it’s easy to be hyper critical of yourself—but often no good can come from this. When you feel like you slipped on your resolution, it can feel like you failed altogether, and this might cause you to head back to old behaviors. If you slacked a bit on your goals, who cares?! Your resolution, your life, your rules. Give yourself a break and give it another chance. And, like we said, make sure you’ve chosen a goal you can achieve.
Get Specific About It
Research has found that the more detailed and specific you are about your goals, the more likely you are to stick with ‘em and achieve ‘em. Ask yourself questions like: What do I want to accomplish? Who does this benefit? Where will I work on my goal? When would I like to reach my goal? Why is this goal important to me? If you struggle answering some of these (especially your “why”), then maybe it’s time to head back to the drawing board.