Every May, florists and restaurants are overrun with people honoring their loved ones on Mother's Day. Yet on Father's Day, most dads are given a necktie or soap-on-a-rope, as almost an afterthought. This June, I encourage you to treat dad as gratefully as you would mom… and you don't have to buy a thing.
Dads love being appreciated, and children of all ages—even adults—will also feel more fulfilled as a result of showing their thankfulness (even if they don't realize it beforehand). The inspiring effects of gratitude go beyond emotional; there is a scientific basis to its effects. In the neuroscience community, gratitude has shown to promote better mental health and greater brain function, among many other health benefits.
Like any other skill, gratitude takes practice. Here are three ways to help make gratitude a part of your daily life:
- Start the Day in Gratitude
- Keep a Gratitude Journal or Download a Gratitude App
- Express Your Gratitude Daily
Each morning, think about all the things you are grateful for. From your concept of a higher power to basic necessities in life like food and shelter to family and friends to even silly things like, “it's singing day at work today.” Taking mental stock of all the things you have to be thankful for is extremely life-affirming and, perhaps with this early mindset turned “on,” the spilled milk during breakfast on the freshly mopped floor won't seem such a big deal.
Get yourself a cell phone or small notebook that fits in your pocket or purse and jot down things to be grateful for as they occur in your daily life. Or keep a Gratitude Journal on your computer and devote time each evening after work to bullet-point out some moments, ideas and people you are grateful for that crossed your path. Or download one of the many applications available now for your phone. By doing so, perhaps the slow-moving car in your lane on the way home from work won't stoke your fire so much today.
From your most beloved relationships with family and friends to the tertiary people in your life, it's important to share your feelings of thankfulness. The next time the grocery store bagger starts to put all the perishables all in one bag for you, try something different and thank him or her.
Much like Scrooge embracing the concept of Christmas and carrying it all year round, Father's Day is a great place to start showing your gratitude, but if you want to reap all the benefits thankfulness has to offer, keep feeling and showing gratitude every day.
Dr. John Demartini
A world-renowned inspirational speaker, Dr. John Demartini is a noted educator, business consultant, author and founder of The Demartini Institute. He was featured in the acclaimed book and movie The Secret, and is the author of 40 books published in over 29 different languages. Holding a doctorate of chiropractic, Dr. Demartini is a retired chiropractor, and to this day carries with fondness his early memories of enjoying the use of hands, heart and mind at chiropractic college.